When we made the decision to adopt, we felt like that was the Big Decision. We are going to adopt! Decision made. Done. Whew. Now everything just falls into place, right?
Not exactly. Turns out, there are about 130 million different ways to adopt. International? Domestic? Foster-to-adopt through your state agency? Pick one.
Domestic? Okay. Do you want to work with an attorney? An agency? A facilitator? Pick one.
Agency? All right, which one? Large? Small? Nationwide? Local? Affiliated with a certain faith? Pick one!
Do you want open adoption? Closed adoption? Do you feel prepared to parent a child with special needs? How do you feel about twins? How much time will you take off when the baby is born?
AGHHHH!!! For an easygoing Midwestern couple that can't even decide where to eat on a Friday night, this is a lot of decision making!
But, we did it. We're doing it. And we feel really good about our choices. At some point, it all just started to make sense and one direction felt more right than the others. Thank goodness. Now I can return the mountain of adoption books I borrowed from the library. Maybe.
Friday, February 5, 2010
Thursday, February 4, 2010
Take Two
I'm considering changing the name of the blog to "Here we go (again!)" Hee hee. But seriously. Here we go again.
As you all know, Jonathan and I have gotten the adoption ball rolling. Here are some little factoids:
1. We chose to go the "domestic infant adoption" route. A pregnant woman will find us (either through our agency or by hearing about us from someone who knows that we're adopting. That's you guys!) She (or they, depending if there is a father involved) will choose us to be her baby's family. In most scenerios, adoptive parents bring their new baby home from the hospital at the age of 2 days old!
2. We are working with an agency called Adoption Minnesota (also called Wellspring Adoption Agency).
3. We have no idea when we will be parents. Because we are being selected by an expectant mom or couple... there is no order, list, time frame, rhyme, or reason. It's just a matter of waiting until the right woman finds us. It could be one day (!!) or five years. Both of those are very rare but it could happen.
So- all in all, we're back at it! We hope this blog can be one way we can keep everybody that we love up to date.
Also, I want to apologize for the fact that the last post before our 16-month hiatus was about diarrhea.
As you all know, Jonathan and I have gotten the adoption ball rolling. Here are some little factoids:
1. We chose to go the "domestic infant adoption" route. A pregnant woman will find us (either through our agency or by hearing about us from someone who knows that we're adopting. That's you guys!) She (or they, depending if there is a father involved) will choose us to be her baby's family. In most scenerios, adoptive parents bring their new baby home from the hospital at the age of 2 days old!
2. We are working with an agency called Adoption Minnesota (also called Wellspring Adoption Agency).
3. We have no idea when we will be parents. Because we are being selected by an expectant mom or couple... there is no order, list, time frame, rhyme, or reason. It's just a matter of waiting until the right woman finds us. It could be one day (!!) or five years. Both of those are very rare but it could happen.
So- all in all, we're back at it! We hope this blog can be one way we can keep everybody that we love up to date.
Also, I want to apologize for the fact that the last post before our 16-month hiatus was about diarrhea.
Monday, October 27, 2008
Who wants to hear a really REALLY gross story?
So I came home from work, opened the door from the garage into the basement and thought... hmmmm. Smells a little weird.
Then I opened the door that leads to the upstairs and OH MY GOODNESS. Cody had explosive diarrhea all the way down the steps. This includes the first set of stairs, the landing, and the second set of stairs. Oh yeah, and the walls.
And judging by the way it has crusted and bonded with the carpet, it happened at least a few hours ago.
It was THE MOST DISGUSTING (and yes, I know I'm using a lot of capital letters today) thing I've ever had to clean up in my life. And I worked in child care, so that's saying a lot.
Jonathan happens to come home conveniently after I have cleaned it all up, disposed of the evidence, and everything looks more or less the way it always has. But, all the windows are open (in late-October Minnesota weather!) and he smells bleach and various other cleaners, so he knows something's up.
After I tell him the whole gruesome story, two of the first things he says are "You should have taken pictures!" and "I'm glad you were the first one home!"
I suppose I can forgive him since the third thing he said was "Do you need a hug?"
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Soooooo, anyone want to buy our house now?
Then I opened the door that leads to the upstairs and OH MY GOODNESS. Cody had explosive diarrhea all the way down the steps. This includes the first set of stairs, the landing, and the second set of stairs. Oh yeah, and the walls.
And judging by the way it has crusted and bonded with the carpet, it happened at least a few hours ago.
It was THE MOST DISGUSTING (and yes, I know I'm using a lot of capital letters today) thing I've ever had to clean up in my life. And I worked in child care, so that's saying a lot.
Jonathan happens to come home conveniently after I have cleaned it all up, disposed of the evidence, and everything looks more or less the way it always has. But, all the windows are open (in late-October Minnesota weather!) and he smells bleach and various other cleaners, so he knows something's up.
After I tell him the whole gruesome story, two of the first things he says are "You should have taken pictures!" and "I'm glad you were the first one home!"
I suppose I can forgive him since the third thing he said was "Do you need a hug?"
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Soooooo, anyone want to buy our house now?
Thursday, October 16, 2008
My calendar tells me it's October!
Somebody (Melis, is that you?!=) has reminded me that another several weeks have gone by... post-less. Yikes! Actually, I've been thinking about it every now and then, but haven't felt like I really had anything to say. (Don't get me wrong, I still don't have anything to say, but I decided to write anyway)
The original purpose of this blog was to keep family and friends updated on the adoption process, because it's seems like something that will be complicated and exciting and emotional and sometimes messy. BUT, now that we're putting adoption on hold for awhile, well... I'm just telling stories about Cody and Jonathan and me. So that's why I may be coming around less until we actually begin the mountain of paperwork and meetings that come with adoption. With that said, here's a little something about what's going on with us.
* I have a FOUR DAY WEEKEND!! And I'm savoring every minute. I turned my alarm off last night (which is the best feeling ever) and plan to enjoy my day. (And do a little grocery shopping, laundry, and errand running. I can't get off absolutely scott free. But I can sit around in my pajamas!!)
* Cody's little butt is fine now, but it did take many soakings in warm water and applications of Neosporin. But I do have to say that a week after the Burrs-in-the-Butt incident, he sprained his hip!! (It's that crazy way he skids around when he chases tennnis balls. I'm surprised he hasn't gotten hurt before!) So, he had some pain meds and had to take it easy for a couple weeks, but he is absolutely fine now.
* Here's an interesting fact I learned from my oatmeal this morning: "Nose prints can be used to identify dogs- in the same way that fingerprints can be used to identify people." I guess we better get Cody nose-printed. Just in case.
The original purpose of this blog was to keep family and friends updated on the adoption process, because it's seems like something that will be complicated and exciting and emotional and sometimes messy. BUT, now that we're putting adoption on hold for awhile, well... I'm just telling stories about Cody and Jonathan and me. So that's why I may be coming around less until we actually begin the mountain of paperwork and meetings that come with adoption. With that said, here's a little something about what's going on with us.
* I have a FOUR DAY WEEKEND!! And I'm savoring every minute. I turned my alarm off last night (which is the best feeling ever) and plan to enjoy my day. (And do a little grocery shopping, laundry, and errand running. I can't get off absolutely scott free. But I can sit around in my pajamas!!)
* Cody's little butt is fine now, but it did take many soakings in warm water and applications of Neosporin. But I do have to say that a week after the Burrs-in-the-Butt incident, he sprained his hip!! (It's that crazy way he skids around when he chases tennnis balls. I'm surprised he hasn't gotten hurt before!) So, he had some pain meds and had to take it easy for a couple weeks, but he is absolutely fine now.
* Here's an interesting fact I learned from my oatmeal this morning: "Nose prints can be used to identify dogs- in the same way that fingerprints can be used to identify people." I guess we better get Cody nose-printed. Just in case.
Monday, September 22, 2008
Long time, no see!
Date of last post: August 22?! It's already September 22!! Sheesh. Time flies.
Here's a quick update/random smattering of thoughts!
Our house is still on the market. And from what we can tell by looking at other houses in our area and the (very small) prices that go along with them... it doesn't look good, folks!! But, we're okay. There's no reason we have to be out of our house, and we actually like our little home very much. We are just giving it a shot, because we know that eventually we'll need more space and now's a good time to buy the kinds of houses that have more space.
Jonathan and I celebrated our three year anniversary a couple weeks ago! I love our anniversary because I get to celebrate the thing that means the most to me in the world and it gives me a reason to be all sentimental and mushy. =)
Cody has a little butt injury. He got a bunch of those tiny blackish/brown burrs stuck under his tail and in his little butthole (I know that's a funny word, but I don't know how else to describe it!) Poor guy!! It's all swollen and inflamed and I've been washing and applying neosporin twice a day. Even though it's not that big of a deal, I keep worrying about it. I can't even imagine what people do when they have kids! How do you not worry all the time?
And lastly, did you know there's a blog with the address www.jonathanandbecky.blogspot.com? I keep accidentally going there and am surprised when I see that someone else has posted to my blog. Then I realize that I have switched the jonathan and becky part around and it all makes sense. The pathetic part is that I have had this exact same "surprise" several times now. Ha!
Here's a quick update/random smattering of thoughts!
Our house is still on the market. And from what we can tell by looking at other houses in our area and the (very small) prices that go along with them... it doesn't look good, folks!! But, we're okay. There's no reason we have to be out of our house, and we actually like our little home very much. We are just giving it a shot, because we know that eventually we'll need more space and now's a good time to buy the kinds of houses that have more space.
Jonathan and I celebrated our three year anniversary a couple weeks ago! I love our anniversary because I get to celebrate the thing that means the most to me in the world and it gives me a reason to be all sentimental and mushy. =)
Cody has a little butt injury. He got a bunch of those tiny blackish/brown burrs stuck under his tail and in his little butthole (I know that's a funny word, but I don't know how else to describe it!) Poor guy!! It's all swollen and inflamed and I've been washing and applying neosporin twice a day. Even though it's not that big of a deal, I keep worrying about it. I can't even imagine what people do when they have kids! How do you not worry all the time?
And lastly, did you know there's a blog with the address www.jonathanandbecky.blogspot.com? I keep accidentally going there and am surprised when I see that someone else has posted to my blog. Then I realize that I have switched the jonathan and becky part around and it all makes sense. The pathetic part is that I have had this exact same "surprise" several times now. Ha!
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